How to Propose with Extra Dinosaurs

“Where have you been these last few months? We’ve been suffering without regular posts filled with your sparkling wit and hilarious cartoons!”

I know. I know, guys. I’m so sorry for abandoning you to several dull, me-less months. But I’ve had stuff on.

“What important stuff could someone who has chronic fatigue syndrome, who barely leaves the house, who doesn’t have a job and who continually tells us she’s terrified of her social life possibly have on?” I hear you say. “I mean, you’re actually inventing a conversation with imaginary fans you don’t really have. Surely, that’s rock bottom.”

… All true, but too harsh, guys.

“Oh … We’re sorry.”

Don’t worry about it. Let’s just say we’ve found the line and we’ll try not to cross it again.

What stuff have I had on? Well, a couple of weeks ago I proposed to my partner.

I wrote a Choose Your Own Adventure story about my partner arriving home to find me gone. The first page was clipped to the front door for him to find, and then he had to make choices which would lead him to other pages. I organised a number of perils for him to face, including dinosaurs, the Loch Ness Monster, a severed arm, a Furby* and a ballerina zombie. All pathways of the story converged on finding me and the last page, which had the final decision of the story: “Will you marry me?”

I know. SO ROMANTIC. Who wouldn’t want to marry me after having their hand imaginarily bitten off by the spinosaurus that was hiding in the fridge? I should write romance novels. propose1 He said yes. Everything was downright magical for about a day until people started asking what our wedding plans were, and then I came to an awful realisation.

I don’t like weddings.

Oh, marriage I’m ok with. Sure, it’s not for everyone, but I think it can nice if you and your partner have an equal, supportive relationship. (In fact, I like the idea so much that I think more people should be able to get married; can I get a hell yeah for achieving marriage equality in Australia by the end of 2015?)

But weddings? Weddings are big, expensive and uber stressful. Just thinking about weddings made my anxiety soar to graph-drawing levels. propose2 So we did a lot of thinking.

There’s so much stuff in weddings that people think they need because that’s just how weddings are, but all you actually need to achieve with a wedding is a) get married, and optionally, b) celebrate with family and friends. Everything else is frosting. Which is fine if you like frosting (and are rich enough to pay for it), but we don’t (and aren’t).

We want cake and celebration. We don’t want fuss and glitz, and under no circumstances will I be put on speaker-phone. But ultimately as long we’re married by the end of it I think we’ll call it a win.

* If you don’t know what a Furby is, then you can read what Wikipedia has to say about them, but I find their account unsatisfactory as it completely ignores the saccharine, demonic horror of the toys. Think Funzo from the Simpsons. propose3

13 responses to “How to Propose with Extra Dinosaurs”

  1. usernamescangosuckmy Avatar

    The proposal was sweeeet!! And congratulations! It’s nice to see someone not glorifying weddings into something they definitely aren’t. Kudos on this post. Wish you a happy married life. :)


  2. Sara Avatar

    My mum tortured the Furby by hanging it upside down until it told her to put it down… anyway if you need any wedding planning advice from someone who also hates the wedding claptrap just ask. We spent all our money on the food and booze so our guests could get drunk and sing Bohemian Rhapsody.


    1. silencekilledthedinosaurs Avatar

      That’s one of the better Furby stories I’ve heard. We just locked ours in a cupboard so it would sleep all the time (but it would wake up and greet you every time you needed something from the cupboard).

      Thanks! I’ll definitely let you know if we need any tips. We will have similar priorities, but I think we’re going to go for something even more laid-back.


  3. Jen Avatar



  4. BRH Avatar

    Your Blog is the best thing I’ve seen all day. It’s so good I even semi-capitalised ‘blog’!


    1. silencekilledthedinosaurs Avatar

      Thanks! I will wear that semi-capitalisation as a badge of honour.


  5. Mama Avatar

    Love your original proposal and your blog. Glad to have found you…or rather glad you found me first I guess.

    PS. I have never read a more accurate description of a furby than yours.


  6. Obligatory Wedding Planning Rant | Silence Killed The Dinosaurs Avatar

    […] Before I got engaged, I thought I knew about them. I thought I knew how over-the-top they could get, how stupidly expensive they are and how rigid some people’s opinions about the dos and don’ts of weddings could be. I thought that, as I was clearly well ahead of the game in identifying these issues, it would be easy to avoid them all. In fact, my foolish words on the matter have been immortalised in a previous blog post so you can go and laug…. […]


  7. Hira Avatar

    wow, that was romantic. Am late to congratulates you , but pls accept it anyways.
    I love your pics and glad that I discovered you ..

    Liked by 1 person

    1. silencekilledthedinosaurs Avatar

      Thank you! Congratulations are never too late.


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