Love and Grief

I’m not entirely sure how to follow “Expecting” after the response it generated, but here is something I drew for myself a couple of weeks after my second miscarriage.

Three panels. First panel, I am standing in the dark lighting a candle in front of my chest. Second panel: my chest catches fire and burns brightly. Third panel: I stand alone in the dark with a hole burned straight through me.


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54 responses to “Love and Grief”

  1. assilemslaid Avatar

    I liked this, because you drew how I’ve felt inside since I had emergency surgery for misdiagnosed Endometriosis, where my destroyed ovaries were discovered then removed after a 6 hr surgery😭

    1. Lucy Grove-Jones Avatar

      I’m sorry that happened to you. I have lost an ovary too (though only one, which I know is not the same because you still have fertility with one).

    2. assilemslaid Avatar

      I forgot to say I can imagine the sorrow, 💔 and devastating pain you felt and always feel😞 My 💝goes out to you, with a gentle/comforting hug👐😔

      1. Lucy Grove-Jones Avatar

        Hugs right back <3

  2. Joanna Lovinger Avatar

    I’m sorry for your loss.

  3. oftheicebox Avatar

    Your drawings and writing is so powerful. I’m glad to see a new post!

    1. Lucy Grove-Jones Avatar

      Thank you :) I hope to make many more yet.

      1. betunada Avatar

        I know you will !

  4. memadtwo Avatar

    What brave and beautiful posts, one after the other. Life asks much of us sometimes.

    1. Lucy Grove-Jones Avatar

      It does.

      Thank you <3

  5. Antsafanou Avatar

    your drawing are so cute ^^, I am sorry for the miscarriage

  6. Leo Entropy Avatar

    Awesome, I am waiting for your new post.

    1. Lucy Grove-Jones Avatar

      Haha glad to hear it!

  7. K.M. Sutton Avatar

    This is such a beautiful heartbreaking rendering of grief. It is so appropriate and I am sending you so much love <3

  8. GJ Stevens Avatar

    Powerful and heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing.

  9. Dina Avatar

    Its really is a gift – your ability to say so much – so simply – takes a lot of skill and courage to what you do – keep going…

  10. dessysdays Avatar

    You have great talent and your drawing can really touch so many hearts. I’m sorry for your lost and I can relate even that I’ve never had one, but I know how it feels to lose something you really want. When everyday your feeling grows, got super excited, you have imagine everything you could’ve have done with the one, but suddenly it’s gone. I lost hope and I keep losing unless I let go. I’m still trying and struggling.

    Thank you so much for this and I’m sending prayers to you.

  11. Emily Kitsch Avatar

    This is so powerful and really gets to the core of grief – the emptiness left behind by loss. *Huge hugs* <3 So much love to you.

  12. Modern Faerie Tales Avatar

    I just found your blog. It’s really amazing!! Your illustrations are cute and powerful at the same time.
    I’m sorry for the miscarriage. Lots of love ❤

  13. Ankit Gupta 'Aseer' Avatar

    Loved the way you crafted your grief. More Power to you. Stay Blessed. :) *Hugs*

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    Keep up the good work on your blog.


  15. Jess Stranger Avatar

    I learned so much from that post, gave me insight into a personal experience unknown to me. It showed me where I have room for compassion. I love your work.

  16. actualconversationswithmyhusband Avatar

    I love that you found a way to break through everything you were dealing with at the time and share the reality of those feelings visually; I know you meant this drawing for yourself, but it’s relatable to anyone who’s suffered a loss—any loss—in a way that still makes us (well, me at least) smile.

    1. Lucy Grove-Jones Avatar

      Recording bad things either in art or writing is actually the only way I know how to cope with them.

  17. bonnieknowsbest Avatar

    As a mumma to current healthy little humans, and to one who miscarried I respond to this on so many levels. Simple and powerful. I’m sorry you went through that too, I’m glad you can talk about it 💕💕

    1. Lucy Grove-Jones Avatar

      I’m sorry for your loss <3 Thank you for commenting.

  18. Quirky Girl Avatar

    I’m so very sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Sending hugs your way. <3

  19. Emily Kitsch Avatar

    I just wanted to let you know that I nominated your blog for a blogging award (
    You’re so awesome, Lucy! I’m so glad to have stumbled on your blog. <3

    1. Lucy Grove-Jones Avatar

      Thank you! I’ve commented on your post :)

    2. assilemslaid Avatar

      That is so awesome!😁

  20. Verónica Avatar

    I was so sorry to read about your loss. Reading your experiences reminded me of my miscarriage and d&c many years ago. I remember the scariest part was signing that piece of paper before the d&c that said it was possible the doctor might need to remove my ovaries if (insert long legal / medical verbiage). I clung to my now x-husband terrified that i would never have children. It was over so quickly. I almost miscarried my second pregnancy but thankfully had a boy a few months later.
    I will keep you in my prayers.

    1. Lucy Grove-Jones Avatar

      Thank you <3 I'm sorry for your loss, too.

      That bit really scared me too! Especially the second time. You'd think after having one D&C and everything going completely fine, having another wouldn't worry me. I guess at that point I was convinced everything that could go wrong, would go wrong. (But it was fine).

  21. Sherry Davis Avatar

    I lost my son to suicide this past Thanksgiving, the fire burning a hole in your stomach is similar to my pain. Although, I referred to it as wanting to reach in and pull my guts out. Its a pain I wish no one ever knew.

    1. Lucy Grove-Jones Avatar

      I’m so sorry for your loss

    2. Joni Avatar

      I’m so very sorry 😔

    3. assilemslaid Avatar


  22. Joni Avatar

    So very sorry for your loss 😔

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