Love and Grief

I’m not entirely sure how to follow “Expecting” after the response it generated, but here is something I drew for myself a couple of weeks after my second miscarriage.

Three panels. First panel, I am standing in the dark lighting a candle in front of my chest. Second panel: my chest catches fire and burns brightly. Third panel: I stand alone in the dark with a hole burned straight through me.


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54 thoughts on “Love and Grief

  1. I liked this, because you drew how I’ve felt inside since I had emergency surgery for misdiagnosed Endometriosis, where my destroyed ovaries were discovered then removed after a 6 hr surgery😭

    1. I forgot to say I can imagine the sorrow, 💔 and devastating pain you felt and always feel😞 My 💝goes out to you, with a gentle/comforting hug👐😔

  2. Its really is a gift – your ability to say so much – so simply – takes a lot of skill and courage to what you do – keep going…

  3. You have great talent and your drawing can really touch so many hearts. I’m sorry for your lost and I can relate even that I’ve never had one, but I know how it feels to lose something you really want. When everyday your feeling grows, got super excited, you have imagine everything you could’ve have done with the one, but suddenly it’s gone. I lost hope and I keep losing unless I let go. I’m still trying and struggling.

    Thank you so much for this and I’m sending prayers to you.

  4. This is so powerful and really gets to the core of grief – the emptiness left behind by loss. *Huge hugs* <3 So much love to you.

  5. I just found your blog. It’s really amazing!! Your illustrations are cute and powerful at the same time.
    I’m sorry for the miscarriage. Lots of love ❤

  6. Hello ,

    I saw your tweet about animals and thought I will check your website. I like it!

    I love pets. I have two beautiful thai cats called Tammy(female) and Yommo(male). Yommo is 1 year older than Tommy. He acts like a bigger brother for her. :)
    I have even created an Instagram account for them ( ) and probably soon they will have more followers than me (kinda funny).

    I have subscribed to your newsletter. :)

    Keep up the good work on your blog.


  7. I learned so much from that post, gave me insight into a personal experience unknown to me. It showed me where I have room for compassion. I love your work.

  8. I love that you found a way to break through everything you were dealing with at the time and share the reality of those feelings visually; I know you meant this drawing for yourself, but it’s relatable to anyone who’s suffered a loss—any loss—in a way that still makes us (well, me at least) smile.

  9. As a mumma to current healthy little humans, and to one who miscarried I respond to this on so many levels. Simple and powerful. I’m sorry you went through that too, I’m glad you can talk about it 💕💕

  10. I was so sorry to read about your loss. Reading your experiences reminded me of my miscarriage and d&c many years ago. I remember the scariest part was signing that piece of paper before the d&c that said it was possible the doctor might need to remove my ovaries if (insert long legal / medical verbiage). I clung to my now x-husband terrified that i would never have children. It was over so quickly. I almost miscarried my second pregnancy but thankfully had a boy a few months later.
    I will keep you in my prayers.

    1. Thank you <3 I'm sorry for your loss, too.

      That bit really scared me too! Especially the second time. You'd think after having one D&C and everything going completely fine, having another wouldn't worry me. I guess at that point I was convinced everything that could go wrong, would go wrong. (But it was fine).

  11. I lost my son to suicide this past Thanksgiving, the fire burning a hole in your stomach is similar to my pain. Although, I referred to it as wanting to reach in and pull my guts out. Its a pain I wish no one ever knew.

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