Double Standards

Two panels of a comic. Comic Lucy and a friend sit facing each other on dining chairs holding cups of tea. In the first panel, the friend says 'I don't feel like anything I'm doing is good enough'. In the second panel, comic Lucy replies with 'You're doing amazing just by being you!'
Two panels of a comic. Two Comic Lucys sit facing each other on dining chairs holding cups of tea. In the first panel, the one of the comic Lucys says 'I don't feel like anything I do is good enough'. In the second panel, the other comic Lucy is standing holding her chair over her head, ready to beat the first comic Lucy (who is cowering on the floor) with it

It’s okay everyone, I’m in therapy, therefore this can be read as socially-acceptable self-deprecating snippet of entertainment and not a poor attempt to muffle the scream for constant validation that bubbles up inside me in ever smaller intervals that I am slowly becoming aware will never, ever be sated.

Show this comic to someone who likes tea. Or chairs.


9 responses to “Double Standards”

  1. leapprentice807172025 Avatar

    kind of dangerous to live our lives by our feelings. feelings should be the gravy on the mashed potatoes. well any how that’s how I feel about it.

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    1. Lucy Grove-Jones Avatar

      Easier said than done, I find

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  2. HAT Avatar

    I laughed so hard I fell out of my chair. [And btw, I think that is good. Especially for a Monday morning!! Just in case that helps any.]

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Lucy Grove-Jones Avatar

      I always love to hear that I made someone laugh!

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  3. measententia Avatar
    measententia

    I like coffee. And chairs 😉 Your drawing hit so close to home, I had to share it with a few people and I will print it out and stick it to the wall in my bedroom.
    See, I’m 38 years old, I have struggled with complex PTSD all my life. I’m only beginning to let the cracks open up and allow myself to see what’s inside of me. Cognitively, I know very well that I’m using heavy double standards all the time but I have not been able to bring myself to admit and more importantly, accept this and face the facts.

    Small, really small steps. I have finally reached a point where I can see that second double frame in my own life and understand that this is part of my reality, too. I used to view myself as not being part of this humane conglomeration. I excluded myself from being human. I saw myself rather as a very flawed and failed piece of cellular lumps that is supposed to function as expected but somehow just doesn’t “get it” and is thus a shame and burden to this world.

    Like You, I can now say “It’s OK, I’m in therapy.” I have been in therapy for most of my life and it’s getting better, albeit incredibly slowly, almost imperceptibly. But it is getting better. Posts like Yours are a great help in that they oftentimes act as a trigger to push me up onto the next stage. I need to see and hear something maybe a thousand times until it clicks, sometimes even more. It’s like a constant nudging. There comes this point, sometime, somewhere, and it’s often a short and concise text or picture, like Yours, that finally pushes a trigger beyond its break point.

    So, thank You for this and thank You for all Your drawings, and for letting us take part in Your journey and daily life ! 😊

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    1. Lucy Grove-Jones Avatar

      Thank you for your comment <3 and congratulations on your progress. It's a really long, slow difficult process, exactly like you have described. I have been in therapy for ten years, and I'm still finding things my brain does that I didn't even realise were making my life harder. It means a lot to me to hear that one of my comics could help you in any small way. Take care <3

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